We all like a good party from time to time, the chance to kick up our heels, let our hair down, relax and enjoy, it’s a part of life. In fact, it’s a very necessary part of a balanced life. Now the advertising industries figured that out, that’s why they use images and stories that tap into our desire to kick up our heels, in order to sell whatever it happens to be they’re selling on any given day. And so we get bombarded with these images of freedom and rebellion and success and leisure and partying, not just in the advertisements, but the TV shows themselves, basically tell us anything goes.

So before you know it, you turn around and we’ve shifted from a post-war puritanical extreme of the 1950’s, to an anything goes “if it feels good do it” society just half a century later. But more than ever people are finding themselves in their own private spiritual wilderness. Doesn’t matter what they tell us on TV, why is that?

There are so many people wandering around in a spiritual wilderness, the TV’s and the advertisers, they’re all saying, “It looks like an oasis, it is an oasis”. But when we’re in the spiritual wilderness, you know something? It feels like a desert. Jesus knew that, Jesus told a wonderful story, it was a parable it’s not a real story, it was intended to illustrate His point. And it’s the parable, the story, of the prodigal son, began with a rebellion. Let’s have a look.

A man had two sons, the younger of them says to Dad, “Dad give me my share of the estate that I have coming to me.” So, the father distributes the assets to them. Not many days later the younger son gathered together all he had and traveled to a distant country where he squandered the estate on foolish living. After he’d spent everything, a severe famine struck that country and he had nothing. Then he went to work for one of the citizens of that country who sent him to feed the pigs. He longed to eat his fill from the carob pods the pigs were eating but no one would give him anything.

Here’s this young man, you know, he’s living on this farm with Dad, he’s bored, he wants to see the big smoke and do the things and have the parties. Maybe he’s been watching too much television, I don’t know. So he decides to go somewhere exotic, he decides to say, “Dad give me all my inheritance, I’m taking it with me.” And he goes to some far distant land where he parties, where he does the whole “if it feels good, do it thing”. Does it sound familiar to you?

It’s exactly what Jesus was talking about. But not long into that rebellion reality sinks in. You know, this guy’s spending money as though there’s no tomorrow, on anything he can think of he’s spending money, and all of a sudden a famine hits the land. Now, it’s not like a famine in a rich developed country. This is like a famine in a subsistence farming country, and when his money runs out, the things that (I don’t know) this exciting living promised, the things that all these glossy ads on television promised him turned out to be hollow and empty, and he was hungry. That was a reality. Here’s the paradox, the more you pour in to fill up, the emptier and the shallower life becomes.

I wonder as each one of us looks at our lives, how much they mirror this story of the prodigal son. The parable is this: A home, Dad, the farm, that’s God. Now to this young man they looked boring they were constrained, there’s something in him that wanted to kick up his heels and rebel against all of that and so he left home. The place of privilege, the place of plenty of food, the place of wealth, it was boring. He wanted to go and do it his own way. He did that. He went and partied.

You know something, any life that’s out of balance will come crashing down around our ears. That’s the problem with constructing our reality from all these flashing images on the television of success, success, success; party, party, party; freedom, freedom, freedom; life’s not like that. Don’t know about you but I have responsibilities, I have a family, a mortgage to pay and food to put on the table and ministry things to do, we all have those responsibilities. Life is not about partying even though relaxing and enjoying life is a normal part of a balanced life. But when we have an unbalanced life, when it’s out of kilter, out of whack, things come crashing down round our ears, reality sets in.

We all do our rebelling in a different way. But after a while, we discover that partying 24 by 7 ain’t all it’s cracked up to be right? So let’s look at our own lives just for a minute. It’s possible, you know, even for someone who says, ‘Well, I’m a Christian’ to have some form of rebellion going on in their lives.

I was at a Christian Bible study some years ago and we were talking about things, there was a young woman there who was working in the church and she was doing all sorts of things and she expressed a very strong opinion. She said, “Look, I agree with just about everything that God says, but I don’t agree with this abortion thing. Like it’s a woman’s choice, you know. If a woman wants to have an abortion she should be able too.” Great, that’s an opinion, that’s a view. But if we really listen to what God is saying, really go and read about what’s going on in the mother’s womb. It tells us God is putting that person together. We can’t take a part of what He says and reject the rest, that’s rebellion.

People want to accept God on their own terms. I don’t agree with that bit about God. No, God can, I’ll have all of this bit of God but I won’t have that bit of God. People go to church and put on the façade and yet there’s a cold war there’s a détente going on between husband and wife. I wonder if we can just take a few minutes, each one of us, to think about what rebellion is going on in my life really?

What are the areas, what’s the one thing, what are the multiple things, how am I rebelling against God? Because as sure as God made little green apples, if there is rebellion there will also be symptoms that are causing us pain. What’s hurting? What’s empty? They’re a cause and effect relationship, the prodigal rejected his Dad, he squandered the money and now he’s starving. You and I reject Dad, and that’s what Jesus calls Him, through our attitudes or through the things we do or whatever it is, and there are impacts. They’re there, they always are, they hurt, they rob us, they steal life away from us.

It’s just one of those natural laws of life. God is God. God made the world, God made us to love Him and to enjoy Him and to be blessed by Him. And when we reject Dad and the family farm, when we reject our birthright and try and take a grab on our inheritance and run off in the other direction, let’s not be surprised, when there are consequences. When partying 24/7 falls down around our ears and all of a sudden, we’re in the trough with the pigs, yet we hold on to those bags of rubbish for dear life, while they eat away at us like a cancer. Come on, what are they in your life?

They’re inside, is it time to name them? Is it time to shame them? Is it time for you to look at what you’re missing out on, for me to look at what I’m missing out on in this rebellion? Instead of slopping it with the pigs, tomorrow, tomorrow we’re going to look at the turning point of the story, but it all began with a son’s rebellion against his Dad.

We’ve all had that experience of trying something, committing to it, believing in it, publicly promoting it, and then flop, we fall flat on our faces. Been there, done that, got the T-shirt! It’s not a nice feeling, is it? On the one hand there’s the public humiliation but even worse than that, is that deep loss inside of having wanted something, believed in it, committed to it emotionally and then failed. Sometimes we’re angry, other times we deny it, and then we just hope it’ll go away and nobody will notice. You can tell, can’t you, that I understand this pretty well? But when it comes to our life choices, sometimes we back the wrong horse and we let the failure linger on and on, and eat away at us. Because going back to what we know is right in the first place, well, that can be a long road home.

There’s something that’s fun and exciting about rebelling, about turning our backs on things and thumbing our nose at authority. Just recently we had a bit of fun in our Ministry, we redeveloped our website, www.christianityworks.com. And all of the developers, (the team there are in their early 20s), and if you go there, there’s a video image of me on the homepage. And during the development time before the whole thing went live, some of the developers put a little halo above my head! You know what I mean, it was fun, now not withstanding it was theologically correct because of course we all are saints in Christ Jesus! I had to tell him to take it off, you know a bit of disrespect but it was fun, you know we all had a good laugh.

And so there are times when it can be fun but if we go on and on, and on, and we rebel, and we turn against things, life gets unbalanced, and there are consequences. There are so many people who think, “well, I can have fun all the time, I can joke all the time, I can reject all the time, I can rebel all the time, I can do what I like.” And as they try and pour gratification to themselves, as they try and chase that illusory oasis in the desert, what they discover is actually, it’s a mirage.

Actually as we try and pour things in, we find ourselves in a spiritual wilderness. Jesus knew that, Jesus told a story, it’s the story of the prodigal son, which we read yesterday and the day before, and we’re going to look at for the rest of this week. He told a story about this spiritual wilderness and what the road home looks like. Let’s pick up the story.

A man had a couple of sons, the younger of them said to his father, “Dad give me my share of the estate that I have coming to me” so the dad distributed the assets to them. Not long after the younger son gathered all the stuff that he had and traveled to a distant land where he squandered his estate in foolish living. After he’d spent everything, a severe famine struck the country and he had nothing. And then he went to work for one of the citizens of that land who sent him out to feed the pigs. He longed to fill himself with the carob pods that the pigs were eating but no one would give him any. When he finally came to his senses he said:

How many of my father’s servants have more than enough food and here I am dying of hunger. I know what I’ll do, I’ll get up and go to my father and say, ‘Father I’ve sinned against Heaven and against you, I’m not worthy to be called you son anymore, just make me one of your servants’. And so he got up and went to his father.

See it all begins with rebellion. It all begins with this illusion that we can spend our lives having fun and partying and doing what we want, and if it feels good do it. I mean morals are old-fashioned and, it has consequences, life isn’t like that. There is a reality to life; enjoyment is much deeper than partying and doing what feels good. It’s an interesting cycle. It begins with rebellion, we reject something, we reject God along with it and we all do that sometimes. And then we think we can kick up our heels and do what feels good. And people do drink and drugs, and they have attitudes that are against God, and they have mindsets that are strongholds against God, and “Ah! Sure, have an affair, the world’s saying it is ok.” And yet there are consequences.

People go and have affairs and it hurts. There are divorces; there are kid’s lives that are often so deeply impacted by all of that stuff. And on the one hand people are saying, “No, no it’s alright, what if it feels good, go and do it.” And yet this whole rebellion, kicking up our heels thing is linked to the consequences, but we deceive ourselves, we don’t connect the two at all. And that was the cycle for the prodigal son in that story.

Dad and the farm, and the work, and the brother, compared to parties and an exotic far off land. Well, which one do you think looked more appealing to the young man at the time? There were consequences, he had to get up and look at those pigs in the eye morning and night with hunger in his belly and all of a sudden, it wasn’t very hard to connect the two, the rebellion and the consequences.

That is when he came to his senses. That was the turning point. It was a pragmatic decision, this coming to his senses. He had choices: On the one hand he could stay here with porky the pig and starve, and look at this pig in the eye every morning and every night when he went out in the field to feed them the food. Or he could suffer the humiliation of going back home as a servant in his father’s household, and at least have some food in his stomach. That was the choice and he weighed them. Which one is more in my interest?

This wasn’t some altruistic decision to return to the fold and his father, and his family, and the honour, and no, no, no … this was a pragmatic self-interested decision. That when something like this, you know something, the choice that I have made is not working, my only other choice is to start on that long road back home again, albeit that I have low expectations, albeit that I’m going to go to my father and say, “Father I have sinned against Heaven and you and I’m not worthy to be your son, make me a servant just as long as I have enough food to eat.”

So here we have God in one corner and us over here somewhere else. I don’t know what the shape and nature of your rebellion looks like. I know what the shape and nature of my rebellions look like over the years. As we live out rebellion in life, in this spiritual wilderness, just like this son was in a wilderness out there with the pigs, we’ve got to ask ourselves, is it working? Has the rebellion delivered what I expected it to deliver? Has it lived up to the expectations? What form has that rebellion taken? Or is it a bit like staring at Porky in the eye morning and night? It ain’t working!

There’s hunger in our bellies, there’s a loss and a sense of “something’s not working, something’s missing, I know Dad’s out there, I know there’s a road back.” Is it time to make a pragmatic decision about that rebellion in your life? Is it time to say ‘it ain’t working!’ I’m far better off with Dad where the riches and the privileges, and the benefits, and the blessings of God in my life, because as long as I continue to rebel, I’m not going to experience those. Or, would I rather hang on in pride to my rebellion and spend the rest of my life feeding Porky the pig?

Benefit versus embarrassment, and often it’s the embarrassment that holds us back from coming to God. The price is humbling ourselves and then all the blessings of heaven can be poured out on us. I can’t make that decision for you, it’s not my job. It’s my job to present you with a choice. Your part is to look at rebellion if it happens in your life, and for you to make the choice between benefit and embarrassment.

For years, and years, and years, I wandered around in a spiritual desert. Now the crazy thing was that I’d been a Christian in my teenage years. But when I grew up, I rebelled and I came to the point where I kind of knew that there was a God but after all the things I’d done, after the years of wandering out there, I just didn’t know whether He’d really want me back, and at what cost? What would I have to give up of the lifestyle that I was accustomed to, in order to have a relationship with him again? For me, as it is for so many people, the road home seemed like such a long one. And what would His reaction be when I turned up on His doorstep again anyway?

I remember as a child, I did something wrong after school, I can’t remember what it was, but my Mother said to me, “You wait until your father comes home.” And I can still remember, I must have only been about six or seven, or eight years old. I can still remember vividly the sense of dread, of waiting at home for the consequences when my Dad came home again. Do you remember that? I’m sure we’ve all had that experience.

This week on A Different Perspective we’re doing a small group of messages that I’ve called The Long Road Home because so many people are wandering in a spiritual desert and the thing that often keeps us from turning around, and going to God in the middle of that. The one person that we’re looking for, you know the one thing that can satisfy that longing that we have, the thing that so often stops us, is that sense of dread.

That sense of wondering well how is He going to react? Is it going to be like Dad punishing me when I was a kid? Jesus knew that, Jesus knows that. That’s why he told a story, it’s the story of the prodigal son, the lost son. We’ve been looking at it over this week on A Different Perspective. It began with a son’s rebellion. Let’s have a read of it again.

A man had a two sons, the younger of them said to his father, “Dad give me the share of the estate that I have coming to me.” so the father distributed the assets to them. Not many days later the younger son gathered together all he had and traveled to a distant country where he squandered his estate on foolish living. After he had spent everything a severe famine struck the country and he had nothing. And then he went to work for one of the citizens of that land who sent him out into the field to feed the pigs.

This son longed to eat his fill from the carob pods that the pigs were eating but no one gave him anything. When he finally came to his senses he said, ‘How many of my father’s servants have more than enough food and here I am dying of hunger. I’ll get up and I’ll go to my father and say to him, ‘father I’ve sinned against Heaven and against you, I’m not worthy to be called you son anymore, just make me one of your servants’.” And so he got up and he went to his father.

It’s a cycle that began with a desire to do it my way, with a desire to rebel, with a desire for partying and excitement, and all the stuff I guess that we look for as young people, and probably as we get older as well. But I wonder how much of this cycle parallels our lives. Whether you’ve never met Jesus before, you just have a sense of spiritual longing, or maybe, maybe once you walked with him, somewhere along the road either you wandered off, or he somehow seemed to disappear, or maybe you’re trying to walk with him but in a certain area of your life, well there’s something you’re holding back.

Wherever we’re coming from, the same symptoms of spiritual hunger, of emptiness, of something missing, of something not working is what so often people feel. And what happened here for this young man, is when he finally came to his senses, what he did was this. He linked his pain with the initial cause, which was his rebellion. So often we don’t do that, so often we’re suffering and yet we go on deluding ourselves that our choices are fine and everything’s fine. Of course I can have an affair, of course I can live like this, of course I can reject God’s view on A, B, C and D. And yet, if we’re really honest with ourselves, if we really look at our predicament in our situation in this spiritual wilderness that so many people are walking through. If we’re really honest, we can see that the pain and the symptoms come back to a rebellion.

I don’t know what that rebellion looks like in your life, we all rebel in different ways but it’s not rocket science to figure it out. And then this young man-made a pragmatic decision, a selfish decision, not some altruistic decision to say I’m going to go back to my father because my father is a wonderful man. It was a decision that was driven by the hunger in his stomach looking at these pigs day and night. And he made a decision in his best interests to start on that long road home.

We’re not told in this story. It’s a parable. It’s a story that Jesus told to illustrate a point, the point of which we’ll see in tomorrow’s program. We’re not told what the journey on the road was like; we know that this young man went to some far off distant country. How long was the journey home? Weeks, month’s maybe-walking? He certainly couldn’t afford to pay for a lift. So as he was trudging along the dirt road step by step, days went by.

On this journey, on this long road home, what was he feeling, what was he thinking, what was going through his mind? Well we’re not told but we can have a fairly good guess – anger; “it’s not fair; it’s just not fair that it’s worked out this way. Why was there a famine just when I was partying?” Maybe some remorse? “How can I be so stupid and waste all that money, and do that to my Dad?” We certainly know there was hunger; he had no money so he was living as best he could at a time of famine, off the land traveling home. What about the embarrassment? “What will my brother say? What will the other servants say?” His low expectations of his Dad; “oh I won’t be taken back as a son, I’ll go as a servant.” His apprehension; “what will my Dad say, what’ll he say?” And day after day walking the dusty road.

Whichever path we walk, I wonder whether sitting at the other end of that turn around decision, on the outer end of that lonely road back, we don’t experience a similar cocktail of emotions, trudging through the wilderness, it’s not working, it’s time to head towards God. Look at them all; anger, remorse, hunger, embarrassment, apprehension – they’re very human, they’re very predictable, and so often they stop us even from trying. We start with good intentions to head back towards God, but our feelings get the better of us, and the gentle nudging and the calling that’s been happening deep down somewhere in our spirits. Well, we just don’t follow it through.

Tomorrow on A Different Perspective we’re going to look at the end of Jesus’ story. How it turns out, the whole point of what he was trying to say to anyone who’s walking in a spiritual wilderness. But today, let’s remember that sometimes when we take that decision, to turn around, to step out on that long road home, sometimes we can feel these things, and sometimes we want to pull off to the side of that road and stop, and give up – don’t give up! Join me tomorrow as we look at the point of the story that Jesus told.