Episode 1. Who’s in the Driver’s Seat?
Question – would you let a lunatic into the driver’s seat of your car? Answer. Probably not. Driving’s a serious business. So … can I ask you who’s in the driver’s seat of your life. …
Question – would you let a lunatic into the driver’s seat of your car? Answer. Probably not. Driving’s a serious business. So … can I ask you who’s in the driver’s seat of your life. Because living is a serious business, right?
Driving a car, as it turns out, is a serious business. The moment we get behind that wheel we’re in control of a lethal weapon but how often do people actually think about that before they unlock the car door, hop in, hopefully strap on their seatbelt and turn the key in the ignition.
Most of us don’t think about it at all and to be honest I’ve been driving since I was seventeen and now I’m well into my fifties and until March last year I didn’t think too much about it either. I’d just hop into the car, turn the key in the ignition and off we go.
I was an aggressive driver because of my personality type. See, I want to get to where I’m going as quickly as possible so I’d tail gate people, I’d blast the horn. Yeah I still do that now and then. I’d zip in and out of the traffic without really thinking too much about the consequences. When I was young in my late teens, early twenties I had a couple of accidents, but nothing since then. A couple of speeding tickets that’s all. But in March last year everything changed.
My children bought me at my request an advanced driving course as a Christmas present and so along I went out to the race track to do my advanced driving course. Now somehow in my head I imagined I’d be learning how to drive faster still, how to zip in and out of the traffic more effectively. But instead they taught me about the consequences of driving like a lunatic.
The morning was spent in the classroom and the afternoon out on the race track in our cars. By the end of the day I came to the realisation for the past thirty years there’d been a lunatic behind the wheel of my car – me! A bit like that crazy gorilla I was talking about earlier.
It’s not that I’m an overly bad person. It’s not that I was intentionally being a lunatic about my driving and in any case my driving wasn’t all that outrageous. Plenty of people drive like that. But once I listened to someone who knew what they were talking about, an expert in their field, once I hopped into my car and participated in some control tests – what were in fact relatively low speeds and discovered the consequences of the way I’d been driving, well I was confronted with the reality that my behaviour behind the wheel, unwitting though it may have been, was putting my life at risk, the lives of the people I love most, my family, and the lives of other people on the road.
It was a shock I can tell you and that shock, being confronted with the deadly consequences of my behaviour resulted in an instant change in the way I drive a car. In fact these days I see people doing what I used to do and immediately I think, “how can you do something crazy like that?” Oh yeah, I remember exactly how.
My view, everyone who drives a car needs to do one of these advanced driving courses because they bring us face to face with the consequences of our actions.
Now if driving a car is a serious business then living your life is even more of a serious business. What we believe, how we see ourselves, what we think, what we say, what we do, our relationships, our loves, how we cope with adversity, how we cope with success, how we live our lives. That’s a serious business. Steering our lives through all the obstacles and hurdles this world throws up at us from beginning to end. Can I ask you a question? Who’s in the driver’s seat of your life? Is it a lunatic or is it someone with a good heart, a wise head, a steady hand?
Let’s say a bit like going to an advanced driving instructor, you paid a forensic psychologist to review your life: your attitudes, your successes, failures, how you handled them, the depth and effectiveness of your relationships, your whole life.
What might they find? What sort of score card would you end up with? If someone brought you face to face with the consequences of some of your wrong attitudes towards others, perhaps your own perception of yourself, your foibles, your insecurities and all that stuff, how would you go?
The sort of life we end up living comes back to who or what is in the driver’s seat. It comes back to the skill and the wisdom and the integrity and the insight of whoever is driving our lives. And even though most of us have had the opportunity to get some sort of education as children and teenager’s, it seems that the whole thing of educating us, how to drive our lives is left somewhat to chance.
Some cultures handle it quite well but others, in fact the more affluent cultures where people see themselves primarily as individuals rather than members of a family or members of a community, we don’t handle this life education stuff that well at all.
So where do you go? How do you get the sort of input into your life that sets your course in the right direction? Here are the words of the very first Psalm in the Old Testament of the Bible. Have a listen to this:
Happy are those who don’t follow the advice of the wicked or take the path that sinners tread or sit in the seat of scoffers but their delight is in the word of God on which they meditate day and night. Those people are like trees planted by streams of water that yield their fruit in the season and their leaves don’t wither. In all that they do they prosper.
The wicked on the other hand aren’t like that; they’re like chaff that the wind blows away.
I’ll be honest with you, academically I’m a pretty smart guy but when it came to actually living my life I didn’t have a lot of wisdom. Being smart and being wise are two entirely different things and so unwittingly I wasn’t living the sort of life that I had the potential to live. I wasn’t taking what I was smart at, what I was good at and using it for others with wisdom and compassion. So I wasn’t that happy at all.
The turning point came for me when I let someone else take the drivers seat. The turning point for me was when I let God drive for a while, for a long while. When I started listening to His words, what He has to say. Then all of a sudden my life started yielding the fruit it was always meant to yield in due season.
So let me ask you again, who’s in your driver’s seat? Huh? When we give our lives over to Jesus, all of our lives, every part, lock, stock and barrel it’s not that we become like automatons, like mindless zombies, it’s exactly the opposite.
Just stop and think about this, God made you and me who we are, He knows what we’re good at, He knows the things we aren’t good at and when we stop taking the advice of the wicked, when we stop treading the path that sinners tread, we stop sitting in the seat of scoffers as though somehow we’re in a position to judge the world, hey something awesome happens.
We discover the freedom we’ve been looking for: we discover that we were made with a purpose. We’ve been given some gifts and abilities that are absolutely unique and special and when we live out who God made us to be according to His wisdom and His ways, when we drink in His words and wisdom, the way a thirsty tree sends it’s roots down into the soil to draw up the water, then you can’t help it.
Fruit starts to appear, we produce the goodness and the yield we were designed and hand crafted to produce and look maybe you know something that I don’t but there isn’t one thing on this planet that I’ve found to be more satisfying, more fulfilling than being who God made me to be and doing what God made me to do.
Producing the fruit that others get to eat, the fruit He always planned for me to produce but it only started happening when I got out of the road and let Jesus hop into the driver’s seat. Can I ask you again, who is in the drivers seat of your life?
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